Getting The Game Plan Right

[Lilly]

Hi Everyone

I just thought about a bit of my technique from the old days when i was totally in the closet.
I used to be so uptight about buying stuff for me,oh god I still blush about when i bought my first little black dress from ASDA in the UK. "oh its not for me its for my wife and can I bring it back if it doesn't fit HER" and all I was doing was paying the girl didn't give a stuff.
So to build your confidence go shopping near to Valentines, xmas and mothers day that way your story is straight in your head in case someone asks a question. Then you start to realise that if it is that easy, wifes and girl friends have birthdays all year round. So girls, have fun, your money is as good as any womans.
Just as a funny end to my post, I was in Autograph as I often am, being a fat chick, anyway the woman is quite nosy and asked who the items were for, so quick as a flash I replied "girlfriend' so then she proceeded to quote me the returns policy. At the end she asked me if my girlfriend had a rewards card, i said "no" "but my wife does" LOL
Should have seen her face.

Love Lilly xxx

[Rosalind]

Hi Lilly,

You are absolutely correct - your money is as good as any woman's. And I wish somebody had told me that when I first started buying my female things so very, very long ago! But, in the end of the day... honestly, what does it matter what the assistant thinks? What does that assistant actually mean to you? Why should anyone really care what an assistant thinks? Oh, I know that we often do care - but why should we in reality?

I burst out laughing here alone at my computer when I read your post. What you said to the assistant is exactly something I would have said long ago - it comes so naturally. So yes, I cam imagine her face! But after the laughter stopped, I realised another thing. If you were en femme at the time, it would have been doubly funny - I mean, seriously.... a girlfriend and a wife .

Hugs,

Rosalind.

[Sasha-Wolf]

LOL good one Lilly. I use to say girl friend myself to start with but over the years I like many came to get the facts sorted in our head a good salesperson does not care where the money comes from.

If they do not ask I do not answer if they ask I state the truth. Most times its lead to a few smiles. and laughs.

[noeleena]

Hi.

A laugh here as well .
A difference for us is & thats Jos & i . ezybuy . one of the clothing firms we get our clothes from i would do most of the orders Jos is a size 12 , im a size 14 to 16 . i told the ladys & one guy , these ones are for Jos & the other ones are for me i had allready told the people i was trans hence we got on so well & talked about different subjects as well.
Shopes no different because im well known over 16 years in our area s & of that 6 years as a male . well sort of any way no big deal,
of cause even as a woman they did not care . when you see these people over time they get to know you & our talk is not just clothes its about whats going on around us as normal people do concerts & down at the parks , just life really kids . schools & what ever.

Of cause i hear so much, many hide away & dont come out to people , fear of & other concerns .
i was not a dresser so never had to ..hide.. when the time was right i just came out as a woman first to Jos & family & then others . & have lived as a woman for over 12 years . & my details have been taken care of. so as a woman im accepted . of cause there is back ground just a part of my life ,& things we have to get through.
So my advantage is i was well known then & now & people know my background & all our details ,so that made acceptance so much easyer.

...noeleena...